Nowadays it seems like a very large percentage of the population suffer with insecurity issues. The majority of this percentage will firstly not admit they are at all insecure but even if they do, they will proceed to blame this insecurity issue on someone else.
It is his fault I am like this, I wasn’t like this before…
What I am about to say is 100% a fact, it is YOUR fault you are like this nobody else’s. Bare with me for a moment and let me see if I can help you understand why.
Insecurity stems from the emotion fear. It is created by you because you do not have enough self love for yourself. Society has majorly influenced this state of mind up on you but it is purely up to you to change this way of feeling or thinking. Social media, movies, music, fashion etc etc are all powered by money. Without money none of these things would exist. To make money they must first take YOUR money. To do so they sell a fake way of life. An unreal way of living and a completely unnatural desire to look a certain way to be accepted. Society is like a cult, if you cant be apart of it then you will be rejected and bullied. People strive daily to consciously and unconsciously fit into society. We buy fancy cars, houses, clothes, make up, shoes, bags etc etc We become members to societies, groups and clubs just to rank higher in a pretend social society. We force ourselves to do uncomfortable things and spend ridiculous amounts of money just to FIT IN. We think this is normal, but it is so far from normal.
I mean who is Michael Kors and what are those watches all about? You bought the watches, then you bought the bags and now you are buying cameras from MK’s??? I am a professional photographer and il tell you for free I would NEVER even consider buying a bloody camera from MK’s… What on earth is happening? You are being constantly suckered in to WANT TO FIT IN. You don’t need or most likely truly don’t even like the things you buy, but you still continue to do so. You do all of this to fit in because if you didn’t, nobody would look at you, talk to you, care about you and you’d lose friends etc THAT is the truth 100%.
So society shapes you this way and its all because you FEAR not fitting in or being accepted by other people. This is insecurity. The lack of faith and belief in yourself as a pure and NAKED human being. Take away the make up, the handbags, the heels and the clothes, who are you???
WHO ARE YOU REALLY?
Do you really want to go through life wasting time and money buying these things just to feel wanted? You shouldn’t have to and it doesn’t have to be this way. Your FAKE ways bring you FAKE friends and you live in a FAKE life that will bring you nothing.
Now we have that understanding out the way and hopefully understood we need to find out how we can fix our issues. Yes it is an issue and the only way to make progression personally is to firstly accept that you do have a problem. Just like anxiety and depression, insecurity is just as big of a mental illness. Ive seen plenty of people break down over being insecure. Ive also seen people create huge huge problems in other peoples lives around them as they cannot bare to deal with their own issues. So, save yourself money, time and problems by learning this simple technique and way of life which you can start putting into action TODAY!!!
Insecurity is simply LACK OF SELF LOVE. Yes, you do not love yourself at all, or enough. Once you fully teach yourself to fully ACCEPT and LOVE yourself you will never feel insecure ever again.
So how do we start?
Saying and doing are two completely different things. Saying – I LOVE MYSELF is easy, actually 100% feeling the love is a different thing. We can start off small and work towards infinitely feeling loved by ourselves. At first it will take some time like anything that is worth doing, there is no quick fix. Be patient and just be willing to want to change. Firstly I want you to understand, life is pretty much written. The family you chose at birth, the school you went too, the friends that surround you were already supposed to be. Insecurity was supposed to be if you do suffer from it, but if you are reading this then id imagine you are on a path to find a fix. So now you know life is practically written (plus some free will thrown in for a bit of extra experience) you will understand that if you put in the effort in life and try hard you will find what you are looking for. (If you do not believe then believe it for the sake of this) Most of us in life are looking for the perfect partner. Even if right this moment you are not thinking about that, one day you will most likely realise that this is a major part of your journey. We want the perfect person and feel like we will do anything to achieve this. The TRUTH is the prefect person IS out there for you. The TRUTH is that perfect person WILL accept you for who you are in your REAL and NATURAL state. The REAL you will attract the REAL partner. The fake you will only ever ever ever ever ever attract the wrong person. They were attracted to you with make up on, with fake eyelashes on, with those fancy clothes on etc etc THAT IS NOT YOU. Ever been with a partner who doesn’t treat you the same when you don’t have your hair done, make up done and you are dressed in an unattractive way? Of course you have. The guy is attracted to the fake you, the real you…not so much. Why would you not want to be able to be free, relaxed and comfortable and STILL be looked at or treated the same? I have always accepted partners the way they are, without make up, baggy clothes, dealt with them farting in front of me or leaving skids and poo on the bottom of the toilet. It is them in their natural state, if you like or love them, they should be able to feel like they can just be. So, you can be natural and you can fart in front of your partner if they full love and accept you etc What you need to understand is that if you cannot do these things, that person you are with is THE WRONG PERSON, hands down 100% not the right one for you. You may think he/she is and you may WANT them BUT they are wrong, FACT.
Now we have cleared that up and you are attracting the wrong people you need to attract the real people. Like i said before you need to be the natural you. Until you let your guard down and stop being dressed up in pointless expensive material things that ‘make you feel better about yourself’ you wont learn to self love and you wont find your perfect partner. There is a great saying that springs to my mind when thinking about this and it is –
When the student is ready, the teacher will appear…
This is basically saying when you have learnt to self love properly you will find just what you have been looking for. An honest you will find an honest partner.
So quite simply you need to drop the fake you, let go of all material egoistic crap in your life you use to cover up your insecurities and just be natural. Next you need to accept that when you are real, life will be real with you. If you are going to portray yourself as a lie, with make up etc you will only attract a lying partner too. This is simply the law of attraction, you manifest what you give out. You will get back just what you put out there. Next you need to say –
I am who I am. I know who I am and what I am capable of and thats all I need to know…
You then ACCEPT fully who you are what you LOOK like. This is you, you are unique, there is nobody that can be you or look like you. How wonderful is that? You are special and you are totally original. Don’t worry about people that may leave you or perceive you in a different way, they are fake friends or people you don’t need in your life. Ditch those that are like this and make some new friends. Friends that are as real as you are. They are the only friends you will ever need around you. Realise fully that you are perfect in every way. When you realise this your real friends will accept you for who you are and your real partner will do so too. Stop worrying about your nose, your mole, your hairline or you body shape, they are actually all perfect pieces to your unique make up and they are there to attract the real guy or girl you want in your life. Idolising celebs is just plain stupid. How many girls out there used to or still fancy Chris Brøwn? Of course there are loads, but imagine having him as boyfriend? He’d bite you, punch you in the face and cheat on you within a day. If you don’t know what Im talking about a few years back he beat up and bit Rihanna, another music artist. Is that the kind of relationship you are after? Of course not, you are just idolising the way some looks from a material and egoistic perspective. Drop these habits. Just being attractive means nothing. You don’t know who these people are or what they are like inside. Be realistic and be truthful to yourself.
So finally, stop chasing fake people and unrealistic desires. Be real and be true to yourself. Stop using material things to cover up how you feel about yourself. Be natural and be attractive naturally. You are you, you are not your handbag, your shoes or your car. Let the inner you flow and don’t be afraid to be weird. I LOVE weird, weird is wonderful. I cannot stand fake things, people or material objects. Start slowly and make small changes until you can fully understand that you don’t need anything to stand out. Start by taking off the watch, your phone has the time. And then just work up slowly until you can get rid of everything you don’t need! I have a friend that drives a very nice Mercedes, he carries his belongings in a Tesco bag! Why? Because why not, who does he have to prove anything too? The grocery bag does just as good as job as any other bag would. There is no need to spend money just to show off or to fit in.
Let us be free of our insecurities. Let us be SELF AWARE and let us ACCEPT OURSELVES for who we truly are.
I hope this wasn’t too long winded but I felt that to understand this issue truly and deeply was as important as finding the cure for it.
P.S Im sitting in costa coffee at the very front of the shop. I keep relaxing closing my eyes and drifting off into miniature meditations. Can people see me? Of course they can, do I give a shit, NO 🙂 Peoples opinions mean nothing, your own opinion means everything. None of these peoples views or opinions of me matter at all. I will be who I wish to be, if I can attract other weirdos then cool, lets be WEIRD TOGETHERRRRR 🙂
Be TRUE. Be REAL. Be CONFIDENT. Be LOVED.