Today Im going to show you, you know not of love but only of fear. You think I’m wrong? Read on 🙂
Every emotion and every action breaks down into two categories, FEAR & LOVE. Don’t forget MOTION (action) creates EMOTION. Trust me, lets go through a few examples. Happiness, love, unhappiness fear, sadness, fear, anger, fear, hatred fear, hunger, fear, attachment, fear, suffering, fear, depression, fear, anxiety, fear and so on. Lets just create a bit of friendly tension, YOUR LOVE is FEAR.
Let me tell you why.
The only true love is unconditional love. I stole this line from google right here – ‘Unconditional love is known as affection without any limitations or love without conditions’ – So what does that mean, without any limitations or love without conditions?
Loving someone without conditions means loving someone no matter if they die, if they run away, if the CHEAT on you, if they lose an arm or a leg, if they get burnt in a fire etc etc
Surely you are like, yea how can I love someone if they cheat on me. Well, loving unconditionally means one has to accept all possible outcomes in any situation and be happy for each and every one. If your partner cheats on you, then you have to accept that it was fate, that it was written and that they did it for a reason and if you truly love them you will either learn to accept it or be happy for them and leave them. This is difficult I know, but if you truly loved that person then you need to show them love NO MATTER what they do. Love is kind, it is happy, it is warm and love is forgiving. Love is the greatest emotion, feeling, energy and power on this planet. The old saying true love conquers all, well it does.
Nowadays most people throw the term, ‘I Love You’ around like a daily fart. It means nothing, its worthless and it stinks more than my fart just did. I mean whats the point in saying something you don’t mean, or even understand. I bet you are thinking hold on, why should you be the one to shower us with your shitty opinion about what love is or is not. Well, let me continue and then you tell me how bad my understanding of love is yea?
Ok, attachment plus fear equals love. This is what you think love is. Your math is wrong and you used the wrong ingredients to create love. When you say to someone, ‘I love you,’ what you are really saying is, ‘I have an attachment to you and I fear losing you”. How and why? Well. Lets say you just found out your bf/gf was cheating on you, would you be happy? Would you feel worried? Would you feel doubt or disbelief? Would you feel pain, anger or suffering? You would be feeling a giant concoction of all those I’m pretty sure. Next thing you do is fear, fear not being able to have that person as your own again, fear of your reputation, fear of what has happened behind your back, fear of how long its been happening for and fear that you may not find anyone as good as that said person was. Omg what are you going to do?
You cannot tell someone you love them in the act of fear. It is not love. It is FAKE LOVE. You like the person, you enjoy the person, you loath or yearn for that person but it is not love you feel. You have created an attachment, and it pains you to even think about what you would feel like, if someone ran away from you or left you for someone else.
You are thinking… What the hell are you on about? Im telling you, you have an emotional attachment and attachment itself stems from the emotion FEAR. Would you be happy if your partner died right now? I don’t mean jumping for joy like you kicked her down the stairs because she can’t cook. I mean if he/she died tomorrow would you be depressed? Would you fully accept that they have passed over to a greater place and you should continue to live your life as you where before they passed? This I know may sound a little extreme but the truth hurts, and whats the point in running away from the truth? It will keep looking for you no matter how long you hide away from it. It takes great strength, practice and understanding to learn how not to get attached to things or people but when you do learn, life becomes more real, more honest and easier to handle. If your partner passes or even a family member, feeling a little bit of sadness is normal but genuinely, not a lot of people get a little sad and then get on with life. They get very sad, hold on to those memories forever and don’t let go of their attachments to that person. This causes again fear inside peoples hearts. How? Well watch what happens when someone in your family gets ill, or someone has an accident. If you have lost someone in your life and are still attached to that memory then see how quickly you start jumping to conclusions and you start to feel the pain again. Attachment, fear, pain, suffering. You hold all of those emotions close to your heart, and you throw around words like love? Lets not be silly 🙂
A heart that has true love for someone, holds no fear related emotions for that person. LOVE & FEAR cannot coexist. You cannot pull and push at the same time, and there is no night and day at the same time. You are either in LOVE or in FEAR.
How does it feel to be in LOVE with someone, unconditionally. Well it feels like you have everything to give to that person, you do not judge them, you do what you can to help them and you nourish them daily. You enjoy the time you spend with them as a treat, and do not hold onto that feeling as an attachment. Enjoy that person like you enjoy waking up everyday. Enjoyment and love are something to show gratitude towards. Be grateful that you have love and happiness. You should share that feeling with as many people as possible everyday. If one day that love disappears, then so it does. Be happy you had the opportunity and then be happy you can still love that person no matter where they are or what they are doing. Sounds crazy right? Well its not so crazy if you learn to love everyone. Jees, that does sound crazy right. Wrong. Hold on.
Most people that hang around us in life, are not real. Yes, the illusion thing again. The people who have been placed around you are usually a direct reflection of you and how you are acting or feeling at the current time. So, if you go to work and a colleague is acting like an asshole towards you, the first thing you do is blame them. It is also the last thing you most probably do too. Have you ever stopped to think, that person it acting like that because of me? Well they most probably are, start learning to look at the way you are projecting yourself to others and see how it could be possibly making others react to how you behave.
Peoples actions are reactions to your actions. Think about it. (Say this over and over in your mind for a minute)
Now if you are thinking, what does this have to do with love blah blah. Well when you start to realise what you do can deeply effect those around you, you can start to fix up your actions and your attitude. It may then become a lot easier to start to love the people who surround you, no matter who they are or where they come from, show them love always and see how it changes the way they act towards you. Remember real love is unconditional, so no matter if they still act like an asshole, still show them love, love will heal that person’s poor dark soul 🙂
So, unconditional love is real love. It means no matter what happens you should continue to love people, life and yourself always and forever, whatever the outcome. You may feel like you love someone, but that my friend is purely fear of losing them and an attachment you have grown for their company etc
Eliminating fear from your heart is the best way to start. Id suggest gaining a little understanding and knowledge about the 7 chakras. This is the time we could do a bit of work on the heart chakra. The heart chakra is at the centre of all chakras and is represented by the colour green, not red. Love is green, it has never and will never be red. Red tends to represent blood, death and money. Oh, fear related things 😉
Self love should be the first and foremost thing you should master. One cannot love another if one does not love thyself 🙂 Loving yourself is very difficult, it means accepting all things that you believe are floors. It also means, accepting what you are good at and things you are not so good at. Self love is self realisation, its self awareness. Its realising who you are and why you are here, and accepting all things are written and that you are perfect. What is perfect? Everything is perfect, especially you! The media, fashion, art, music and social networks try to create ‘perfection’, which is never going to be you. They make you feel like this so you feel vulnerable, so that you will spend everything and anything to get closer to that ‘perfect’ status they have created. This is why people get fake boobs, lips, they wear make up and buy silly clothes. The media has made you feel insecure, you FEAR not fitting in and you will do whatever it takes to do so. This insecurity and fear makes you unable to self love. You have to learn to let go of this fake shit. You have to learn to accept you for who you are. You are great, you are perfect for this time on your journey. Please know this, and learn to love yourself.
Once you start to feel self love, you let go. You let go of the fear of not fitting in. You let go of the fear of being judged and fear of not being accepted. You let go of all fears surrounding your image or they way you do life. You fully accept that the way you are and the way you do life is cool as fuck and you stop caring about anybody elses opinions. This power allows you to be free, free of everyones criticism, negativity and also allows you to be free of fear regarding anything to do with your image. We live in such a negative society where bullying and victimisation is normal. It will never change its called separation, it is supposed to be, allow it. I will talk about separation and why it occurs in a later article. Where there is light, there is also darkness. Life needs to be balanced.
Next I would like to quickly touch on why the media uses the fear in your heart to control you. Life is about balance as we spoke about earlier, to be good, there must bad, to feel happiness you must have had felt sadness and to know how to love, one must have had feared at some point. The problem with the media, it is not about balance. It is all about fear. Bad news this, bad news that, death here, killings there etc etc You wake up in the morning and check the news and all you see is a sea of negative stories about illnesses, suffering and killings around the world. Nothing is positive. The reason the news is produced this way is to install a constant daily dose of fear inside of you. Lets just take this is to consideration for a moment, I haven’t ever read the newspaper or watched the news, I’m nearly 30 and I’ve not died yet. I am sane, I am happy and I don’t need to know about a new breakthrough in cancer research. But people watch this shit everyday, absorbing the negativity and pointless information that does no good and makes you feel bad. You worry about the current status of war in Korea, Iran, Afghanistan and America. You worry about Russian bombers, or how Kim Jong Who flung fucking dung is going to take over the world. NO. This information has no need to be absorbed by you. Are you a wartime general or a politician? Are you a member of the secret society? No. You have zero power to change any of these things yet you continuously insist to watch these atrocities and converse about them with your colleagues at work. You have no power to change these things so why are you even wasting your time worrying about them? What will be will be, why not enjoy the time you have in this life instead of worrying about the what ifs? You numpty. Enjoy your life and stop worrying about when Trump is going to release his next top of the range of custom toupee. Life is about absorbing positivity, happiness and love. Don’t chose to set up your day with pointless worries about the status of the world. If we only have one week left until someone nukes us all, bloody enjoy it!
Many of the things in the news are what you call ‘false flags’. These are events, usually called terrorist doings, that are set up to cause havoc, fear and most of all disruption. They use these events to disrupt you from your mildly happy life. You then lose control, start to worry and your attention is right where they want it. The more time the media, the government and the news can grab your attention, the less attention you are giving yourself. The less time and attention you give yourself the weaker you become, the more time you will spend in the state of fear and not love. Fear makes you weak. Love makes you strong. Weak people are much easier to control than those who are strong and unite in the name of love and stand together. Fear tactics are purely used to control you. The reason theses events are being called ‘false flags’ is because they are not real. How? Thats just crazy! No, it isn’t. Have a look for yourself, search youtube and google for false flags, check out the videos from the Boston marathon bombings of the fake amputees put in place before the ‘bombs’ go off. Check out how fake 911 is, there are many documentaries showing plenty of evidence to prove that it was set up. These are terrorist attacks yes, but the terrorists are the ones who you think are on your side. Like I said before, these things are set up to install fear into your heart, you are weak when you are scared, when you worry and are unsure. Don’t fall for the traps, turn off the news and read a book, watch a cooking show or collect stamps.
So we have touched on a few examples of things that create fear. False evidence appearing real. We have touched on how we can create self love, which will then help us learn to love others. I hope you come away with some understanding of the difference between unconditional love and fake love, fear. I hope you can learn to love yourself and if you need any further help or pointers with this Id be happy to help you along your journey.
Like I said in my last post, I’m a real person talking about real things. I tell the truth and will be forward and honest in as many ways as possible. Sometimes things can sound a little harsh, but its for the best. The truth is what we all search for, and the truth hurts. Accept the current status of your life and work towards becoming a better version of yourself. We should always strive for self growth as we grow older by the day. Take a moment each day to quieten the mind and think about how positive or negative you have been and maybe how you could have done something better. Don’t scald yourself for things you may have done wrong, just learn that tomorrow you can improve on those said things and become that little bit of a better person. Share the love. The more you give the more you shall receive.
P.S To love unconditionally, just love freely with no worries. When somebody goes, let them go. When somebody dies, let them die. When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. Peace out 🙂
Forever & Always