So today I had an argument with my mother. No biggie but it stimulated my mind enough to create a post around the subject that we were shouting about.
What Id like to cover in todays blog is about, not listening to anyone who isn’t worth listening to and to realise the bad patterns people set out for you to follow.
These days people LOVE to give you their opinion and oh so great advice about life. What you should or shouldn’t do. How you should grow up, get a job, have a family and take out a mortgage. Boring! I find everyone so monotonous and painfully boring when they speak to me about how they think life should be done. Let me just get one thing clear, I am not at all close minded and do sometimes value peoples opinions, especially if I ask for them. I don’t no know everything but, I am not at all blind and I can see and understand patterns. Life is created by patterns. If you drink alcohol everyday for 20 years, you will probably have liver failure. How do I know this?
Medicine and science have proved that people who drink alcohol on a regular basis compared to those who DON’T drink alcohol at all are 100% more likely to get liver cancer or failure. They the doctors, like anyone else realised a pattern which they used to make such facts or opinions etc This type of research can save peoples lives and is certainly deemed useful. Many psychologists can quickly return patients back to a better mental state than the one they were in because they have recognised patterns within human behaviour over X amount of time and know what to do in the majority of cases to help the patient get better etc This shows that pattern recognition is useful and can save a lot of time, pain, money, lives and stress. So, this moves me sweetly on to my next subject.
Pattern recognition. People create patterns and so does society. The majority of people who follow the patterns set out by society are unhappy. They WISH they had done this and that and they always want more. They are usually in an unhappy or OK relationship or completely alone and lonely. These people followed the pattern that the system has set out for them. Its the one where you get schooled, get a job, have a baby, get married and die working. The majority of people around us chose to follow this even though they see unhappy people all around them doing the same thing. WHY do you all do this? Do you actually know of anyone that is truly content and happy? They love working 50 hour weeks at their job, they have all the things they want in their home, they love everything they do and they are in good health? I know, nobody. I do know a lot of bullshitters that say they are yet they always are moaning and complaining about something and they can’t wait to down a bottle of red wine when they get home to escape from reality. So, lets start recognising these patterns that are set out, and start making our own patterns or decisions in life.
The majority of people that love to give advice are the ones that aren’t really doing anything great themselves. These people are also pushing something they believe is right. Look at that person and say, ‘Is this person, the person I want to become?’. If the answer is yes, then by all means you take their advice. If the answer is no, then stop listening to them. Why the hell would you want to take advice from someone you don’t want to become? Personally Id suggest taking advice from a great leader, mentor or role model that you have who you’d like to become alike. This way of thinking and listening would make loads more sense than listening to your own parent or spouse drivelling on at you.
Not only is it boring and pointless advice its also time consuming and energy consuming. Ever had an argument and just come out of it feeling fed up and feeling negative? You question your own motives and think, am I wrong? Well yes you probably always do, so its best if you can avoid any confrontation at all costs. Save time, save energy and save a bloody argument!
Don’t listen to people just because you have to, you are related to them or you think its a good idea because you like them. Surround yourself with what you would like to become. If you want riches and success. Surround yourself with entrepreneurs and successful people. If you don’t know any, hit up youtube and give your time to some great audios or videos everyday and absorb some of the great free knowledge that these successful people give out. You don’t know any? Hit up these multi millionaires for free advice, GaryVee, Anthony Robbins, Casey Neistat and Grant Cardone. Watch and listen to how these people do life. Take advice and replicate what they do in their lives into yours. Don’t waste time listening to your mum go on at you especially if she leads a life you certainly do not wish to pursue.
LEARN to be SELFISH, yes selfish. You are on this journey as a singular soul. You have a journey to complete and you shall not complete it following the paths of people who are stuck in nothingness. God, whoever he/she is did not allow for you to be created to just go to school, get a job, get married, set up a mortgage on a house and then for you to SLAVE away until retirement for the smallest bit of freedom when you are finally retired. You will be old, shit and you won’t be able to enjoy anything properly.
LIVE LIFE when you are young. Enjoy it, and make sure YOU are the creator.
I mean no disrespect to my mother if you think I was being disrespectful, I’m just making a true statement. Do not be afraid to go against the grain. Tell those people who love you, NO! I will do me, and you can like it or lump it. People who truly love and care for you should accept and support all of your ideas, creations and decisions in life. Do not be afraid to upset anyone or to tell them they are wrong.
Focus on WHO and WHAT you want to become. Do not be afraid to fail. Do not be afraid to say no. Lastly, always make sure YOU are the one holding the pen that is writing this story. It is your life, make sure that it stays yours.
I hope you enjoyed this short blogand I also hope you take a stand in what you believe. Making small changes everyday to becoming the greatest version of yourself is all you need to do.
Love & Peace
Forever & Always